The church and the world has a way of making excuses for the hard realities families face within the church. Instead of dealing with “what is” we try to get people to see “what could be.” Many church leaders describe this behavior as faith. Unfortunately this method of reasoning does more harm than good. God doesn’t need our help to soften the blows of the unfavorable situations we find ourselves in. This Fathers Day, I’ve elected not to pass down unbiblical theology to my readers. Instead I give to you two truths you probably won’t hear this Fathers Day at any church.
1. Your mother is not your father. It is physically, emotionally, & spiritually impossible and equally confusing for any child to properly understand.
Where shall I start? There’s just so much fundamentally wrong with this idea that I don’t know where to begin. Many times growing up, strangers pitched in to help my mother and my father. People would provide for us in areas where my parents failed to be able to meet our basic needs. For example, they would pick up large bags of clothes from other people’s home and go wash them in a laundry mat. They would then divide the clothes among my siblings and I. I’ve never thought of the people that gave us their clothes as my parents. I can say they made it their business to see to it that we never went without this or that…. Mainly neccesties though.
We have a habit of trying to overcompensate in areas where the absence of one thing may not be the presence of something else. Being single doesn’t mean your lonely. Being married doesn’t mean your happy. One parent homes aren’t cursed, neither are two parent homes blessed solely because they have two in home parents. An absent parent isn’t always the result of divorce or broken relationship. A single parent doesn’t equal half a parent. The most important lesson we can teach our children is to love and respect their parents.
2. State Ordered Child Support Should Not Be Initiated By Believers.If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment… Click To Tweet
Child Support is state mandated money deducted from one parents account deposited into the other parent’s account. The money is specified but often not agreed upon through the courts. The child is then paid for like a debt on terms that could only be established by an uninterested party. This money, however once deposited into the custodial parent’s account does not have to be used exclusively toward the named child in the court order. This support serves as a form of income or paycheck for the parent of the child in need of support.
The only issue I have with this one is the term, it’s extremely misleading. The term support is defined as giving assistance to, bearing the weight of and or giving financial assistance so that one could function or act. Child support is just regulated money sent into an unregulated home. It is time out for the church to remain silent on this unbiblical way to resolved divorce issues within the church. Why are so many dads labeled as deadbeats?
Here’s your answer 1 Corinthians 6:1
If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the Lord’s people? How dare you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter instead of taking it to other believers?